How to choose an engagement ring and how much to spend

An engagement ring is a personal choice. These guidelines help you decide calmly, without pressure and without overspending.

Start with style #

Notice which jewelry they usually wear: yellow, white or rose gold, classic or modern lines, big or discreet stones. If you can, ask a friend or relative for help.

Size #

Find out the size discreetly (for example, by measuring another ring of theirs). See the guide to finding your ring size. Resizing in the workshop is common.

Stone and metal #

Diamond is the classic, but there are also sapphires, emeralds and moissanite. For the metal, 14 or 18K gold and platinum are the most common. For a diamond, look at the 4Cs and consider lab-grown or natural.

How much to spend #

There is no correct amount. The idea of spending two or three months' salary is a myth popularized by advertising. Spend what your situation allows without going into debt, and consider insurance.

Buying with a guarantee #

Buy from trusted jewelers, ask for the stone's certificate and the invoice, and check the return and resizing policy.

See also #

• The 4Cs of diamonds: cut, color, clarity and carat
• Lab-grown or natural diamond: differences, price and which to choose
• How to find your ring size (with conversion chart)
• Ring